Self-Esteem/Self-Worth

Imposter Alert! You’re Smart and Successful…So Why Don’t You Feel Like It?

Published on June 6, 2012 by

Are you an imposter?

Okay, let me clarify—despite being smart, talented and accomplished, do you often feel as though you aren't? Do you find yourself thinking, “I know I’m all that, but I don’t feel like I’m all that”? If you are nodding your head in agreement, you are not ...

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How To Deal With Change You Don’t Want: The Truth Will Set You Free

Published on April 28, 2012 by

How do you deal with something in your life you don't want? What really works when it comes to changing your life? Do you need to focus on the positive and pretend you aren't upset? In my last post, I dealt with how to deal with change you don't want, ...

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What It Takes To Be Happy: “Faith”

Published on June 11, 2011 by

To me, faith is a belief in something in the absence of proof. We often have evidence for something without having proof to nail it down. If we have proof for something, we don't need faith. I'm not talking today about faith in a religious sense, but in a practical ...

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What It Takes To Be Happy: Self-Love!

Published on May 28, 2011 by

So far we have talked about two strands in the tapestry of happiness:

• Self-Confidence • Vision

Today we are going to look at the role of Self-Love in happiness; a topic that has created a lot of controversy, confusion and ironically, unhappiness! Think about these questions:

• Should you ...

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What It Takes To Be Happy: Self-Confidence!

Published on April 21, 2011 by

When it comes to happiness (and I’m using the word in a general sense) we have to think about self-confidence. Think about someone you know who is happy…aren’t they also confident?

For instance, if someone is happy in their job, I bet they have confidence in their craft, whatever ...

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The Myth Of Self-sabatoge: Why We Do What We Do

Published on January 27, 2011 by

We've all heard the term "self-sabotage." Therapists and coaches use it a lot when they're talking about someones "self-defeating" behavior. Take procrastination for example. I know someone who finished all his college requirements except for one writing assignment. Ten years later and he still hasn't finished his assignment. Let's call ...

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How To Build Your Confidence Fast!

Published on October 13, 2010 by

  Have you ever wondered why some people seem to set bigger goals and reach them faster than others who are aiming much lower?

 Their secret is simple: Self-confidence. (Okay, that's just one of their secrets!)

 Here are five ways to increase your self-confidence fast:

  •    Start a “Self-Confidence Journal”

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Why You Should Send Yourself A “Congratulations” Card!

Published on October 12, 2010 by

I was talking to a client today, listening to a recent success she's had.

She was happy about it, really happy.

And I was happy for her. She not only reached a significant goal, she exceeded it.

Naturally, I asked her how she was going to celebrate her success. She ...

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How To Win Your “Inner Critic” Over

Published on October 11, 2010 by

I'm coaching a client, whom I'll call Mark for now, who has been excelling as a manager for almost one year now. He's really good at what he does, has a great personality, loves people and his direct reports respect him and like to be around him.

You'd think he'd ...

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“They” Are Wrong, Don’t Listen To Them!

Published on September 30, 2010 by

About six years ago, my oldest daughter Dana graduated from Loyola University School of Nursing, took her boards and became an R.N.

Her dream was to be a nurse in the pediatric intensive care unit at Children's Memorial Hospital in Chicago.

As she shared her dream with others, everyone told ...

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