Are You Amazing? Really, What Do You Think?

Published on November 2, 2015 by

Rumi was a 13th century Persian mystic poet, someone with mind-blowing insights into life, meaning, spirituality and human potential. Here's what he wrote about human potential:

You were born with potential.
You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness.
You are not meant for crawling, so don’t.
You have wings.
Learn to use them and fly.

If what Rumi says is true, how do we explain that most people are still walking and not “flying” when it comes to their career, health, relationships, abundance and more?

That question can’t be answered in one sentence because there’s no one answer to the question.

But we do know that most people aren’t “flying”—they’re not even running. They’re crawling or walking—when compared to what their potential is.

Why is that?

Why is it we know we have far more potential than what we’re living from in our lives?

One thing my experience as a psychotherapist taught me and what I’ve observed as a coach for companies, and with my private clients, is perhaps the biggest thing that keeps people from living from a higher level of their potential is this:

Deep down, most people don’t feel all that amazing.

If you’re not amazed at yourself, why not?

Trust me, most people find that question intimidating at best and narcissistic at worst.

That question makes most people uncomfortable.

Sooner or later they bring up someone they know who is amazed at themselves, but others find them obnoxious or living in fantasyland. After all, I bet you’ve had a manager or boss who thought they were a management god when in reality they were the boss from hell.

So many people, if not most, are afraid to go to the place of being amazed at themselves. They don’t think they’ve earned that yet or they think if they actually believed that, it would mean they’re completely lacking in humility.

But here’s the thing. It’s really hard to unlock your potential if you don’t find yourself amazing—whatever that means to you.

With that said, what does it mean to think you’re amazing?

How good do you have to be to be amazing? Do you have to be Mother Theresa or Richard Branson to be amazing? Do you have to be well-known, rich, powerful and as Steve Jobs was famous for saying, “Make a dent in the universe”?

Are you able to embrace your "shadow," the aspects of self that people hide from out of shame, guilt and fear?

If you told me you think you're really amazing but you hide from your shadow, you're missing the boat on knowing how amazing you are.

How would you know if you’re amazing?

What if the endless messages you get from the people around you and from everywhere else were wrong?

Does your boss/manager think you’re amazing? Probably not.

What about your spouse, significant other, children or your friends?

Yes, I know they probable think well of you and see a lot of great things about you.

But that doesn't mean they see your amazingness.

Did you know that every person has an "aura" around them--and invisible emanation? But few people see the aura around a person.

Again, how would you know if you’re amazing?

What if you were to wake up (on a whole new level) and connect with your amazing self?

And one last time:

How would you know if you’re amazing?

Let me know what you think, leave a comment or question and add your amazing voice to this conversation.

P.S. One thing I'm amazing at is helping my clients discover their amazingness. When they do that, nothing is ever the same again. Call me or email me when you're ready to find out how amazing you truly are.


  1. Steve

    Ironically, though I know there are probably several sources, I've lived most of my life in a culture where it is deemed "spiritual" to bombast yourself.

    I think what you said about embracing your shadow is particularly poignant. I just heard a story tonight of a police officer who committed suicide because he had been busted for some criminal activity. He left behind a wife and four kids. He was the amazing difference in the lives of his family, yet he couldn't embrace his shadow and his amazingness at the same time.

    How would I know if I'm amazing? The answer has to come from within. I have to validate myself. If you believe there is a God, and you believe this God thinks you are amazing, yet you don't believe it, then to you it doesn't really matter what God thinks. You have to believe it.

    • Alan Allard

      Steve, you're right with "You have to believe it." That can be challenging because as you said, many people were raised in or are still in an environment where the is so much confusion about the topics of self-love self-worth, self-esteem, "selfishness" and more. There are so many contradictory messages and few people sort them out. The ones that do find a level of peace of mind, confidence, worth and vision for their lives it's hard to describe. You have to experience it.

  2. Rob

    Ok, I'll say it... I found this to be an amazing post!

    How do you see the amazingness in yourself? One way sticks out to me. Do you see amazing things in those you most care about? Even the 'small things' you may wonder whether anyone else sees? (also ask yourself whether you think it is possible even in those you feel most negative towards...) I imagine most people would agree they do, and maybe even say it's really not that hard. With that in mind, might this perspective also exist in your own direction? Come on, if you've experienced it from someone else, entertain the notion of a loving universe, 'God', natural beauty, or whatever... don't you have to admit its pretty much certain?

    Of course possible doesn't mean it comes naturally. It can feel awkward for all the reasons you note above. But if you have a shred of desire to move beyond the false humility of all the things we've been taught, and into more potential, give it a shot.

    • Alan Allard

      Thanks for all your comments Rob. Especially the commnet, "...move beyond the false humility..."

  3. will

    No one is amazing we live with natural confidence , no one is Jesus no one can fly
    .People thinking there amazing is the underlining problem with todays world ,this
    is why we have a brainwashing revolution and cocky people with a false sense of
    confidence anyway for people to become amazing we would suffer in a world
    doomed by falseness and reflected by arrogance.

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