Self-Improvement

Why “Just Do It” Is Great For Nike But Not For You

Published on May 3, 2016 by

When it comes to “motivating” others (and ourselves) there are three well-known phrases I see and hear a lot:

  • “Just Do It!”
  • “No excuses!”
  • “No one owes you anything!”

As a former psychotherapist and now as a coach for the past decade, I have spent thousands of hours ...

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Dark Night of the Soul & Taking Responsibility

Published on February 16, 2016 by

About nine years ago I wasn't doing well--in fact I was going through what some have called the "dark night of the soul."

I was burned out, angry, confused and couldn't see any way things were going to get better.

Things did get better, by far.

It took work ...

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Serena Williams’ Coach’s Advice to Us All

Published on February 6, 2016 by

No too long ago I was coaching a client in his late sixties and he said something in passing. I paused and asked, "What did you just say, can you repeat that?"

I'm not going to share what he told me--but it was about a life-long dream he's had ...

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What’s Holding You Back Isn’t What You Think

Published on November 24, 2015 by

When a speaker asks a group, “What is the biggest thing that keeps most people from pursuing their l dreams?” the answer is almost always “Fear.”

Fear seems to be behind a lot of things without us even knowing it. The salesperson doesn’t ask for a clear “Yes” or ...

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The Courage to Be Unhappy For a Time

Published on October 31, 2015 by

Sometimes the reason we're not happier is because we don't want to be unahppy for a tiime while we deal with things we want to avoid. It takes courage to be unhappy for a time but it's the work we can do to create more happiness and fullfillment in life ...

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How to Feel Invincible, Despite the Critics

Published on October 26, 2015 by

Invincible: Too powerful to be defeated or overcome. Synonyms: indestructible, unconquerable, unbeatable, indomitable, unassailable.

I just read a story that made me stop and think. The story is just a story, meaning it never happened—however, the point of the tale happens all the time in real life in different ways.

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Why This New Study On Happiness Is Wrong

Published on October 5, 2015 by

If you want to be happier, you might want to ignore this new study--or at least see the holes in it. Here's what it says:

"A new study suggests you won’t be as happy as you are now for about another four decades. Australian researchers say happiness follows a predictable ...

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Unleashing More of Your Potential: Three Keys

Published on September 29, 2015 by

In the past several years I’ve worked with several organizations that are leaders in their industries. The individuals and teams I coached or trained are doing well and they know it.

They also know they have more potential and they want to know how to unleash more of it. ...

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Instant Happiness

Published on September 23, 2015 by

About a month ago I delivered my two day workshop, “Leader as Coach” for a large organization. Everyone there was very smart and accomplished and wanted to learn how to coach their teams. On the second day, I was ready to have them do an exercise that demonstrates the power ...

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Outrageously Positive

Published on June 15, 2015 by

I have a client who gets up every morning with hope, optimism and and inspiration to live fully. The thing is she has every reason to wake up angry, cynical and even depressed. No one would blame her if she did because she has experienced enough tragedy, heartache and challenge ...

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