Self-Improvement

The Power of E + ER = D0 to Change Your Life

Published on January 21, 2018 by

Jack Canfield either originated or popularized the formula E + R = O: Event + Response = Outcome.

The problem is most people respond to a challenging event with an automatic, subconscious response:

E + AR = O: Event + Automatic Response = Outcome.

We could also call our Automatic ...

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Why This Success Guru Is Just Plain Wrong

Published on December 10, 2017 by

I read a lot.

It all began when I was a teenager and read a short book, Your Greatest Power.

That began my quest to better understand myself, to gain insight into human behavior, happiness and yes, "success."

Today I read an article by a prolific writer who deals with ...

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The Hardest Question in Life to Answer

Published on June 18, 2017 by

 

Years ago I had a friend who sold life insurance.

He didn't really like it and he only made enough money to pay his bills.

I suggested he find another kind of sales job; one he was better suited for and one he enjoyed.

He insisted he just needed to ...

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Happiness

Published on May 31, 2017 by

Happiness—it's such a broad topic and one we tend to make more difficult than necessary. At work and in life, your level of happiness couldn't be more important.

I was recently a guest on The Energy of Success Podcast, hosted by author, speaker, and trainer Marc Schwartz.

Marc is an ...

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Why “Just Do It” Is Great For Nike But Not For You

Published on May 3, 2016 by

When it comes to “motivating” others (and ourselves) there are three well-known phrases I see and hear a lot:

  • “Just Do It!”
  • “No excuses!”
  • “No one owes you anything!”

As a former psychotherapist and now as a coach for the past decade, I have spent thousands of hours ...

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Dark Night of the Soul & Taking Responsibility

Published on February 16, 2016 by

About nine years ago I wasn't doing well--in fact I was going through what some have called the "dark night of the soul."

I was burned out, angry, confused and couldn't see any way things were going to get better.

Things did get better, by far.

It took work ...

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Serena Williams’ Coach’s Advice to Us All

Published on February 6, 2016 by

No too long ago I was coaching a client in his late sixties and he said something in passing. I paused and asked, "What did you just say, can you repeat that?"

I'm not going to share what he told me--but it was about a life-long dream he's had ...

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What’s Holding You Back Isn’t What You Think

Published on November 24, 2015 by

When a speaker asks a group, “What is the biggest thing that keeps most people from pursuing their l dreams?” the answer is almost always “Fear.”

Fear seems to be behind a lot of things without us even knowing it. The salesperson doesn’t ask for a clear “Yes” or ...

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The Courage to Be Unhappy For a Time

Published on October 31, 2015 by

Sometimes the reason we're not happier is because we don't want to be unahppy for a tiime while we deal with things we want to avoid. It takes courage to be unhappy for a time but it's the work we can do to create more happiness and fullfillment in life ...

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How to Feel Invincible, Despite the Critics

Published on October 26, 2015 by

Invincible: Too powerful to be defeated or overcome. Synonyms: indestructible, unconquerable, unbeatable, indomitable, unassailable.

I just read a story that made me stop and think. The story is just a story, meaning it never happened—however, the point of the tale happens all the time in real life in different ways.

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