Mastering Emotions

The Hardest Question in Life to Answer

Published on June 18, 2017 by

 

Years ago I had a friend who sold life insurance.

He didn't really like it and he only made enough money to pay his bills.

I suggested he find another kind of sales job; one he was better suited for and one he enjoyed.

He insisted he just needed to ...

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Happiness

Published on May 31, 2017 by

Happiness—it's such a broad topic and one we tend to make more difficult than necessary. At work and in life, your level of happiness couldn't be more important.

I was recently a guest on The Energy of Success Podcast, hosted by author, speaker, and trainer Marc Schwartz.

Marc is an ...

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Why “Just Do It” Is Great For Nike But Not For You

Published on May 3, 2016 by

When it comes to “motivating” others (and ourselves) there are three well-known phrases I see and hear a lot:

  • “Just Do It!”
  • “No excuses!”
  • “No one owes you anything!”

As a former psychotherapist and now as a coach for the past decade, I have spent thousands of hours ...

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Go From “Here” to “There” Faster & Easier

Published on February 22, 2016 by

In 2007 Ursula Burns became the president of Xerox Corporation. In 2009 she became the CEO and In 2010 she was also named chairman of Xerox. That’s quite a success story, but like all success stories, there is a beginning.

For Ms. Burns, that beginning was as an intern ...

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Dark Night of the Soul & Taking Responsibility

Published on February 16, 2016 by

About nine years ago I wasn't doing well--in fact I was going through what some have called the "dark night of the soul."

I was burned out, angry, confused and couldn't see any way things were going to get better.

Things did get better, by far.

It took work ...

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What’s Holding You Back Isn’t What You Think

Published on November 24, 2015 by

When a speaker asks a group, “What is the biggest thing that keeps most people from pursuing their l dreams?” the answer is almost always “Fear.”

Fear seems to be behind a lot of things without us even knowing it. The salesperson doesn’t ask for a clear “Yes” or ...

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Are You Amazing? Really, What Do You Think?

Published on November 2, 2015 by

Rumi was a 13th century Persian mystic poet, someone with mind-blowing insights into life, meaning, spirituality and human potential. Here's what he wrote about human potential:

You were born with potential. You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness. ...

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The Courage to Be Unhappy For a Time

Published on October 31, 2015 by

Sometimes the reason we're not happier is because we don't want to be unahppy for a tiime while we deal with things we want to avoid. It takes courage to be unhappy for a time but it's the work we can do to create more happiness and fullfillment in life ...

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How to Feel Invincible, Despite the Critics

Published on October 26, 2015 by

Invincible: Too powerful to be defeated or overcome. Synonyms: indestructible, unconquerable, unbeatable, indomitable, unassailable.

I just read a story that made me stop and think. The story is just a story, meaning it never happened—however, the point of the tale happens all the time in real life in different ways.

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How to Choose How You Feel, No Matter What

Published on October 24, 2015 by

What would life be like if you had control over how you feel regardless of what’s going on in your life at the moment?

Most people don’t think that’s possible. Let me explain:

About twenty years ago I was in a post graduate psychology class with twelve other psychotherapists. ...

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