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What’s Your Real Potential? (Video)

Last week I watched a video of women gymnastics, comparing Olympic gymnasts from the 1950’s and those currently competing. I’m sharing it to ask the question, “What is our real potential?” What have we learned since the 50’s in terms of the human body’s potential, mental potential and so on? Here’s the video–it’s the first […]


Why “Just Do It” Is Great For Nike But Not For You

When it comes to “motivating” others (and ourselves) there are three well-known phrases I see and hear a lot: “Just Do It!” “No excuses!” “No one owes you anything!” As a former psychotherapist and now as a coach for the past decade, I have spent thousands of hours with individuals and couples and also with […]


Go From “Here” to “There” Faster & Easier

In 2007 Ursula Burns became the president of Xerox Corporation. In 2009 she became the CEO and In 2010 she was also named chairman of Xerox. That’s quite a success story, but like all success stories, there is a beginning. For Ms. Burns, that beginning was as an intern for Xerox in 1980. If you […]


Dark Night of the Soul & Taking Responsibility

About nine years ago I wasn’t doing well–in fact I was going through what some have called the “dark night of the soul.” I was burned out, angry, confused and couldn’t see any way things were going to get better. Things did get better, by far. It took work and it took some time. And […]


Serena Williams’ Coach’s Advice to Us All

No too long ago I was coaching a client in his late sixties and he said something in passing. I paused and asked, “What did you just say, can you repeat that?” I’m not going to share what he told me–but it was about a life-long dream he’s had but never done anything with. Now […]


What’s Holding You Back Isn’t What You Think

When a speaker asks a group, “What is the biggest thing that keeps most people from pursuing their l dreams?” the answer is almost always “Fear.” Fear seems to be behind a lot of things without us even knowing it. The salesperson doesn’t ask for a clear “Yes” or “No” from the prospect because they’re […]


Are You Amazing? Really, What Do You Think?

Rumi was a 13th century Persian mystic poet, someone with mind-blowing insights into life, meaning, spirituality and human potential. Here’s what he wrote about human potential: You were born with potential. You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness. You are not meant for […]


How to Feel Invincible, Despite the Critics

Invincible: Too powerful to be defeated or overcome. Synonyms: indestructible, unconquerable, unbeatable, indomitable, unassailable. I just read a story that made me stop and think. The story is just a story, meaning it never happened—however, the point of the tale happens all the time in real life in different ways. I’m going to share the […]


How to Choose How You Feel, No Matter What

What would life be like if you had control over how you feel regardless of what’s going on in your life at the moment? Most people don’t think that’s possible. Let me explain: About twenty years ago I was in a post graduate psychology class with twelve other psychotherapists. We were discussing “depression” and one […]


Why This New Study On Happiness Is Wrong

If you want to be happier, you might want to ignore this new study–or at least see the holes in it. Here’s what it says: “A new study suggests you won’t be as happy as you are now for about another four decades. Australian researchers say happiness follows a predictable trajectory as we age, with […]