Weighed Down With Problems? Here’s What To Do

Published on December 5, 2010 by

A client e-mailed me Friday wanting some coaching time as soon as possible.

Let's call her Anne.

Anne and I talked the next day. She is facing some financial challenges and also has a significant career decision to make. Anne is highly intelligent, ambitious and personable. She's done well for herself career-wise, has a wonderful family and cares deeply for others.

When we began talking, I got the sense that Anne felt like she had failed herself, her company and her family. In the midst of all this, she had to make a some decisions.

She obviously wanted to make a decision that would be a plus for both her family and career.

The problem was Anne was trying to make a decision from a place of self-doubt and fear.

After our coaching session, I e-mailed Anne the following:

Anne,

I'm reminded of what Einstein said, which I'm going to paraphrase...

Problems cannot be solved at the same level of consciousness that created them.

What do I mean by "consciousness?"

Our current thoughts plus our emotional state = level of consciousness.

If we allow present circumstances to control the level of consciousness we're living from, we'll continue to create what we've been creating. The key is to rise to a higher level of consciousness, to think and feel on a different level.

I know, that's easer said than done. Yet, it can be done. I've done it before and so have you.

You're facing what seems like an insurmountable challenge now. It's time to remember appearances can be deceiving.

There are always solutions. Many solutions.

Yet, we can't find solutions in the fog of fear.

You said you don't know what to do. You don't know what the answer is to your challenges.

That's okay. I've been there before. Millions have.

I told you it's okay to be where you were when we began talking. Because we don't have to know what the answer is to any challenge right now to get around it.

What we can do is to imagine how we would feel if we now had the "perfect" solution to the former challenge.

The more we maintain that state, that level of consciousness, the faster the solution arrives.

And here's something to consider: Why wait until solutions arrives to celebrate those solutions? Now is always a good time to celebrate!

By celebrating before we manifest the solution, we do our part in the co-creation of what we want.

Children have a lot of practice in this. Do you remember daydreaming when you were a child? You're an adult now, but that doesn't mean you can't use what worked as a child, does it?

We know how to daydream, to use our imagination to picture what we want. Sometimes it's a matter of remembering and practicing.

Some very interesting things happen when we imagine what we want. If we step into the movie and really live it, we are filled with wonderful feelings. Feelings of accomplishment, faith and of being fulfilled with having what we want.

That's a pretty good place to live, wouldn't you say?

And it just happens to be the place solutions like to hang out.

2 Comments

  1. growingup

    I'd love to be promoted in my job and am getting closer, I can feel it. However, this wouldve been achieved month ago (I think) if only I have the guts and belief in myself to be more assertive (thats how it works at my job). BUT the lack of confidence holds me back at times...when I do well, I become overly aware and subconsciously screw up. The unnatural effort...which is not in favor of my advicement, but for the appeasal of others. I think I could be on to something. I truely can not help the self-doubt and hatred at times BUT when I'm not overthinking work and enjoying what I do (ie in "the zone"), I kill it; I'm the best, and I know it...therefor, so do others. How does one defeat self doutb and intimidation..and self destruction?? So many silly mistakes when I'm trying so hard

    • Alan Allard

      Glad to see you here again and thanks for your comments. As for "defeating" self-doubt and intimidation" I think we get the best results when we focus on what we want, not what we do not want. So, it's more effective to focus on building self-confidence, self-acceptance and self-worth than to focus on defeating something. We inadvertently create more of what we focus on, dwell on and embrace. As for "silly mistakes," we can all relate to that! Life is about learning as we go and realizing that progress trumps perfection. You are heading in the right direction, good for you!
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