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I’ve spent twenty five years plus working with individuals and couples, helping them to create positive change in their lives. Ten of those years were spent in a full time private practice as a psychotherapist. Over the years, I’ve learned at least a little about life, people, change, joy and pain. I’ve learned a lot […]
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to set bigger goals and reach them faster than others who are aiming much lower? Their secret is simple: Self-confidence. (Okay, that’s just one of their secrets!) Here are five ways to increase your self-confidence fast: Start a “Self-Confidence Journal” Start a list of everything you’ve achieved […]
I was talking to a client today, listening to a recent success she’s had. She was happy about it, really happy. And I was happy for her. She not only reached a significant goal, she exceeded it. Naturally, I asked her how she was going to celebrate her success. She had been thinking about that […]
I’m coaching a client, whom I’ll call Mark for now, who has been excelling as a manager for almost one year now. He’s really good at what he does, has a great personality, loves people and his direct reports respect him and like to be around him. You’d think he’d be walking on air with […]
You already know that depression is a serious problem for many people, maybe even you. What you might not know is where to turn if you or a loved one needs to better understand what depression is and how to deal with it. Here’s a suggestion for where to start: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/10/07/introducing-managing-depression-skillfully/ This is a new […]
I was playing in a Texas Hold-em poker tournament recently and won the final table… largely because I was able to put my opponent “On Tilt.” That’s a poker term for when a player loses his emotional balance. They get angry or lose their confidence and start making poor decisions. When it was down to […]
If you’re human, you know what frustration is. It’s what we usually feel when we are stuck somewhere between where we are and where we want to be. It’s what we often feel when we want something now, but something or someone just seems to be in the way of our getting what we want. […]
This afternoon I received a phone call from an accomplished sales professional. But, he wasn’t calling me to sell me something. He recently found out that he would probably be unemployed by the end of the year. And even though he has been very successful in his profession, he was concerned. I get that and […]
If we want to thrive in times of pressure, uncertainty and high stress, we have to have what some have called “Mental Toughness.” Elite athletes have it. Soldiers in combat better have it. And if you ever face an extreme life challenge, such as a serious illness, a huge financial crisis or a relationship breakup…mental […]
Over the past twenty years or so, I’ve worked with a lot of clients, both as a former psychotherapist and now as a coach. Some clients came to me wanting help with what they thought was impossible for them. I remember one client, I’ll call him Bill, who told me his secret dream was to […]
